Before I start my rambling for the day I want to thank my sisters at The Secret Is In The Sauce for featuring my blog this week.
Now on to my rambling.........
I have been reading a couple of threads in the Pinching Your Pennies forums about being Stay-At-Home-Moms, Finding Day-Care, and then another one that really has me thinking!! The subject is "Not the Typical Utah (you fill in the blank)". Words commonly used to fill in the blank --- Mom, Wife, Neighbor, Neighborhood, Mormon, Religion...... Phrases like this bug me! Do people use the phrase when they want to clarify that they are not at all like the group they're referring to. Of course that implies that there is something wrong with the group they're referring to? Or do they think that there is something wrong with themselves because they fell that they are not "typical"?
In Utah I think that there is a lot of pressure on women especially to try to be "typical" but what works for one my not work for another. Is this part of the reason that there is a higher percentage of Utah women using anti-depressants than any other state? Is it why there is such a high percentage of Utah women/mothers using Meth?
Here is a quote I borrowed from Karin at PYP.. "I also dislike when it is used to put down a group as a whole. Example: Not your typical Utah neighborhood. The speaker is referring to a neighborhood that she feels is filled with people who mind their own business vs. others where she feels everyone is into everyone's business. Pretty judgemental in my opinion. The context it is used in plays a big part in how it is taken by others. The same sentence could be looked at completely differently in another conversation. Example: Not your typical Utah neighborhood. The speaker is referring to a neighborhood that is bullet filled every night and overflowing with gang problems. In my opinion, not a problem. The phrase "not your typical" is not inherently bad. It is just how it is used and how it is received. A lot of that depends on the point of view of the speaker and the listeners."
Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves?? Just be who you are. Don't try to fit a cookie-cutter mold. Don't put people down because they are not what you perceive as typical.
I wonder if people that live in other states has the same issues? Is it really a Utah thing?
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